Tell Me About Your Mother
Welcome to “Tell Me About Your Mother,” a podcast for psychotherapists by psychotherapists, where we explore issues related to our profession, filtering them through our professional, and sometimes personal and humorous, lens. Each episode, Evan and Melissa offer food for thought by bringing their experience and humanity to help you strengthen your practice of psychotherapy. We would love to connect with you at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run.
Episodes
43 episodes
Episode 43: The Devouring Mother
Faulty torture tactics in the Iraq warCarl Jung's Devouring Mother ArchtypeBarriers when applying boundaries to parentsParents of children with addiction feel a sense of closeness in crisis Internal...
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Episode 42: Control Patterns
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Episode 41: Therapists Also Grow In Therapy
Evan and Melissa explore how clients have been their greatest teachers. Topics also include:Negative attribution styles Evan and Melissa discuss what they view as their greatest accomplish with a client S...
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Episode 40: Recovering From Codependency
Evan and Melissa discuss the nature of recovering from codependency, its benefits, and challenges.Finding recovery from codependency or other mental health struggles CODA a 12-step recovery program for people recoverin...
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Episode 39: The Vagus Nerve
Evan and Melissa discuss the vagus nerve and its implications in emotional regulation and treatment.3 stages of polyvagal theoryTechnology outrunning our limbic systems evolutionAnxiety tension and fear are attempt...
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Episode 38: Pop Psychology Propaganda
Evan and Melissa explore the often deductive and maladaptive conceptualizations pop psychology shares on social media and its negative consequences. We plan to make this a series since there's a lot of material to cover. This episo...
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Episode 37: Healing Through Song
Evan and Jamie Kay meet and discuss the healing, reflective, and connecting elements of songwriting with the writer and its audiences. Jamie has written over 300 songs in the course of his 50 years of songwriting. He's a gifted storyteller who'...
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Episode 36: Witchcraft Accusation
Evan and Melissa discuss clients' perspectives that therapists have super powers, how being seen in a raw, deep, meaningful way can at times feel like voodoo magic.
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Episode 35: Why Don't I Cry In Therapy?
Evan and Melissa answer an audience question regarding intellectual defenses in session. "How do I get my therapist to become aware that I am using my intellect to deflect from emotional vulnerability in our sessions?" We are hopin...
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Episode 34: Intellectual Avoidance
Evan and Melissa explore how intellectualizing stories serves as a protective distancing from emotional exploration, expression, and healing.Implicit memory healingBilateral stimulation CBT often ineffective f...
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Episode 33: Dissociative Attunement
Evan and Melissa explore the ways in which clients use intellectualism as a means to conceptualize emotional memories to maintain safety. Topics also include: Emotional attainmentMaintaining an observer role when someo...
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Episode 32: Emotional Attunement
Evan, Melissa, and Eli share their experiences with client attunement and the ways in which such connection can promote a deep sense of understanding and meaning.Emotional attunement with clients informing unconventional approaches&...
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Episode 31: Police Profiling
Evan, Melissa, and Eli process Evan's recent experience being harassed by the police. Topics also include:ProfilingCrime and punishment ideologyLife-long record keeping Escalation before de-escalation...
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Episode 30: Pray The Gay Away?
Evan and Eli meet in video form for the first time-- available on Youtube! They use this hour to explore themes of:Conversion TherapyEmotional Residue from clientsCounter-transferrence
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Episode 29: Dating Dopamine
Parentified child impact in romantic relationships Cultural differences fueling assumptions in friendship DOS OS How the dating sphere has changed with technology You watched too many...
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Episode 28: Playboy-AI-Sex Dolls
Evan and Eli join for another episode to explore how therapists can unintentionally assume understanding of clients' stories based on personal bias. They then explore the evolution of porn and its possible future implications on sexuality, dati...
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Episode 27: When to Parentectomy
Evan, Meliisa, and Eli explore the a case that Melissa is processing. A great resource from Dr. Nicole LePera helps us get startedParentified child case study How are crises adaptive systemically?
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Episode 26: What Are We Doing?
Evan, Melissa, and Eli discuss the intention of the podcast and ways to become more intentional in our discussions. Melissa is our podcast mommyIncorporating the interpersonal supervision model into our conversations
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Episode 25: Firecracker Puppies
Evan and Eli practice behaving without Melissa being present for this episode. What’s worth investigating with a client?Salem witch trials Eli wants to try Ayahuasca Being attracted to clie...
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Episode 24: Take Off The Therapist Hat
Politically correct culture influencing dialogue in therapyQuestions can evoke shameMoving with clients’ awarenessWhen self-disclosure is therapeutic Where are his balls?Treating infidelity...
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Episode 23: Pound Town
Melissa rejoins Evan and Eli. They quickly realize that Melissa is the mother of the group and helps "police" the episode content. This realization prompted Evan and Eli to explore the origins of foreskin shots.What are foreskin sho...
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Episode 22: Alcoholic Garden Gnome
Evan and Eli are one-on-one for this episode. Within minutes they realize that Melissa represents a shadow mother figure in the podcast dynamic and that her absence allows for more dick jokes. Discussing the phallic qualities of their mic stand...
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Episode 21: Emotional Literacy
subtle minimization in childhoodUsing Lysol to kill monstersSomatic experience informsPhysicians are not mental health professionalsBypassing intellectual blocking by processing clients’ somatic experien...
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